When we were graduating from college and planning our wedding, we were dreaming together all the time. Where would we live? What would our career paths be? What trips would we go on? What ministry would we do? What friends would we keep for years and years and what new friendships would we make? We were following dreams of all kinds and it was awesome.
Taking Turns
Sometimes you can’t follow both dreams at the same time. After we had been married a year, I got my dream job of teaching high school theatre. I directed 4 shows a year, designed the set and sometimes helped build it on weekends and took my students on field trips and retreats. My kids were my ministry, my co-workers we re my friends, and my job became my identity. Here’s us in that season, when we chaperoned some theatre kids to London. I think WE look like the kids here!

I was living my dream of a career and then spending extended time in Chicago to go to grad school. By 2002 I had my Masters in Theatre in Directing and it was Scott’s turn for a career focus. He had been moving up the corporate ladder steadily and now he had an opportunity to take a promotion at national headquarters in Richardson, TX. So without a doubt, we began a new adventure.
Life with Purpose
The season of Scott in corporate came to an end and we knew God was calling him to seminary. It had always been a dream of his to go to seminary, and I think he just didn’t realize how possible it was. Before long we were both on staff at our church and loving every minute. (well, most minutes… I mean, churches aren’t perfect, ok?) Next thing we know the passion we have for marriages continues to grow. We help people in our free time and we start writing workshops and homework and exercises to help people have better relationships.
Taking Risks
When it became clear that we could start a nonprofit to do what we are passionate about, we were ecstatic. Elated. Wow! You mean you can take a salary cut and then do what you love? You can stay up late and work too hard for something you LOVE? We are following incredible dreams right now by leading The Family Greenhouse. It’s an adventure, and a bunch of trouble to work with your spouse every day, but the most amazing, rewarding thing we have ever done.
Your Turn to Dream
If you are married, don’t forget to dream! Whether your marriage is young or old, take time to talk, listen, be open-minded with each other, withhold judgment, share emotion and DREAM together. If you need help knowing how to rebuild this kind of trust and communication with each other, contact us for help. It’s what we do…and we love it.
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