I am sure I did not understand the change that would happen in our marriage. I didn’t understand how much I would change (hopefully for the better) and that I needed to give Scott room to change.
Possible Change
Giving room to change means not bringing up the old ways. It means not putting them in a box. It means trying not to say “you are always late” when you know they are working on it. When you want to give up and sigh “you will never change,” keep in mind they might.
Bad Change (perceived anyway)
Sometimes people change in ways we don’t like. Scott got into running and it made me feel like a lazy sloth. I started cutting out sugar, and he had to start sneaking out for Sonic milkshakes. I’ve been in a long streak of leaving clothes all over our bedroom. I didn’t use to do that! Maybe one day I will change. But for the record, Scott didn’t watch much football when we got married. And then a few years later, he is an Ohio State Buckeye fan that can’t miss a game! I did not sign up for that. Sigh.
Good Change (perceived)
Life changes us too. Kids changed me and having different jobs changed me. Having my mom move here to McKinney changed us all. And sometimes we WANT change! We need it. We need a different car or couch or job or paint color like we need oxygen!
Open to Grow
Personality style tells us quite a bit about change. Some people desire and need change more than others. Some resist change and prefer the status quo until a lot of outside forces push change on them. We need to be open to change in each other, both the kind we pursue and the kind that happens over time. If your spouse decides he wants to learn a new language, or try a new career, or have interest in new hobbies, it is important to grow and change with them.
Freedom!
A huge reason to celebrate marriage is the freedom we give each other to grow and change with time. How can you give each other room to grow in this season of life?
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